Culture
Make Love To Me
I am forty. They said this would be my sexual peak. I kind of thought they meant that I would have a lot of great sex. I was looking forward to that. I think they […]
Thoughts & Reflections
Thoughts & Reflections
A Letter To The Girl Whose Nudes Were Leaked
Many of us leaned back in our chairs, fully clothed and shielded by screens as we watched your virtual take-down. Somebody had found it reasonable to allow your naked body to be scrutinised by the […]
Empowerment
The Modern Woman in the African Lens; Perfect Fit or Illusion?
Ever wondered what the world would possibly look like without women in it? Well, I usually do, and honestly I never enjoy what my imagination brings to life. But well, that’s like most of us, […]
Thoughts & Reflections
Can I be Independent in Peace?
No man is an island; I believe this and I agree with it. To me, that means we all need each other. In fact, one of my best songs to describe the situation, would be this […]
Culture
SARAFINA (The Weaker Sex)
“Sarafinaaaa! Don’t break our bed! Sarafinaaa! Leave our bed alone. Sarafina, you are going to pay for our bed!” squealed the mid-wife. I was gnashing my teeth in the opposite room as I imagined Sarafina […]
Culture
Friends Of The Dead
During my father’s funeral, the chief insisted on giving a short speech, but after he had had something to eat. So after eating, the chief came back to the gathering, tummy full and started his […]
Love & Sex
On Love- Decisivenes Takes Courage
I’ve always spent more time than I should choosing a dress, or a hairstyle. I know most people say this is common with women. Perhaps it is, Perhaps there’s more to the constant anxiety I […]
Empowerment
Catch Them Young
Not too long ago, an image of a tweet went viral on my timeline on Facebook. I was so impressed by the girl described in the tweet that I had to share the image as […]
Development
Why Are Women Their Own Worst Enemy?
As if we didn’t have enough to worry about. Trapped in patriarchal societies judged from all sides for what we wear, what we say, how we say it, where we go, what we think and […]
Empowerment
We Are Home, Now What?
In some African cultures, if not most, a first time mother is always flanked on both sides by an army of women during labour, delivery and after birth… Well, most of them wander off eventually, […]