By Marie-Helena Mekolo

Seriously, ladies, it’s about time we stop letting these men put all the blame on us for failed relationships. There is nothing wrong with you and there is nothing you could’ve done to make things better. Sometimes things just don’t work out. We tend to be way too hard on ourselves, placing all the weight of the blame on our own shoulders.


Once that’s over, we start criticizing ourselves: how we could’ve done things differently, if we could go back how we would change things. Honestly, even if we had the power to go back and change every little detail the outcome would still be the same. Cuz it’s simply not you! It’s the other person and no matter how long you stay with them the end is inevitable. You are perfect, amazing, smart, beautiful and intelligent. Take all that in because you are, each and every single one of us. We have everything we need to do whatever we want in the world. A single human being and a bad experience will not deter us from our amazing destinies. Ladies, let them have this round. As Beyonce has told us, “Your Best revenge is your paper.”

Get your life and priorities in order, do what makes you happy. Travel more, laugh more, work out more. Try that new cycling class at your gym, go visit a friend and remember that there is more to life than a bad experience. And most importantly, let go of all the pain and anger. Some things are not worth the hate.

Live, love, laugh abundantly. If you can, make sure to laugh your way to the bank!


Keep your heads up Queens.