Society, Not Anymore!

Society you have had your way for too long. You wonder how?  Let me attempt to break it down and please, no need for you to justify yourself. For once listen. Genuinely listen. Listen not to respond, but to hear and understand a different perspective.

You have succeeded in making women feel they are not enough or inadequate, when:

– A woman’s choice of childbirth is via c section instead of vaginal birth.  As society, you prefer the ‘normal’ birth, as if this is a choice women have to explain much less your business to meddle in!

–  The pressure you put on women to get married in their twenties under the disguise of your well wishing words:  “You are not getting any younger!”, but what happened to: “Everyone’s path is unique? Marriage isn’t a prize to be achieved and hung on a wall like a coveted possession.  Some get married earlier than others and that’s okay. We are all getting older anyways…married or unmarried.

–  Here is what you have dictated to us over the years, without necessarily asking us, African women, what we wanted:  graduate from university, get a job, get married and have children.  If children do not come in a time frame that is acceptable to you, you label the woman barren, or even worse, cursed!

–  Let’s discuss the subject of ‘submission’ to her husband.  Patriarchy has raised men who demand and expect women to be and do certain things, while putting no expectation on the man as the husband and head of household.

There is nothing wrong just because someone does not fit the mold, does not adhere to your plans and want to live life the way they see fit.   Our paths are different.  We will never ‘achieve’ at the same time. But we can achieve in our own time.  Be genuinely happy for others as they have good things happening for them.

What pressure has society exerted on you? Share with us!

About Racheal Kizza 11 Articles
Racheal Kizza is a budding entrepreneur with a passion for youth work and fashion. She is a full time project officer at Kyusa, a nonprofit organization that empowers out of school youth in urban slums to become employable. She is a youth leader in different forums, blogger, mentor, public speaker, writer, facilitator and trainer. Racheal is one of the founding directors for Christian Women Entrepreneurs Network (CWEN), a platform that brings together Christian women in business to connect, create and collaborate. She serves as the Executive Board Secretary for CWEN.

1 Comment

  1. So much Truth!!!
    I pray society listens this time or we will keep screaming
    am baffled by how we are expected to be photocopies of each other and not the masterpiece we are
    how we are expected to constantly prove our worth

    I will save this rant for another day
    Great post!!!

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published.


*