To Tell, Or Not To Tell
By Zerida Mponye
“In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The next best thing is the wrong thing. And the worst thing you can do is nothing.” –Theodore Roosevelt
If your friend was seeing someone they were really serious about and this person was toying with their feelings –perhaps cheating on them– would you burst their bubble? Would you tell?
If you walked into a bar and found your friend’s significant other getting it on with someone else, are you obligated to inform your friend? Or will you “keep the peace” and turn the other way; perhaps reasoning that what they don’t know can’t hurt them and that you don’t want to be the source of their pain?
There was a time when the answer to this question would have been pretty straightforward. Of course you would tell your friend! Probably even that very second! But the lines are so blurred now that most of us are not quite sure what the right course of action is.
Sometimes we’re scared of ruining our friendships. I mean, what if the said friend does not believe you? Naturally, the guilty will not go down without a fight. In most cases, there’ll be accusations of the “Your friend is just jealous,” “That bitch just hates me,” “I didn’t want to tell you this but your friend wants me and she’s just doing this because I rejected her” nature.
Many friendships are shaken by this sort of thing. One has to wonder, is the truth worth all the drama? After all, it is none of my/you/our business. But isn’t it?
I saw the opening quote on facebook last night and this question came to mind. I’m not here to tell you whether you should or shouldn’t tell. That’s entirely up to you.
So I’ll just leave this here…