Why Don’t You Earn Your Own?

Once upon a time, women were not allowed to get very educated, or get jobs that would allow them to be breadwinners. They were not allowed to own property or to inherit after the deaths of their husbands or fathers. Fast forward to the 21st century, more women than men enroll in university. Today women are breaking the glass ceiling in the big corporations, and have high level white collar jobs, and earning more annually than what their grandmothers ever earned in their entire lifetimes. Women are investing more in real estate and stocks, and their right to inheritance is protected by law.

However, a few women are pulling the entire sex back into the Stone Age. They have all these opportunities for education, and access to scholarships if necessary. They have an opportunity to get a good job, or start a business that will enable them to invest for their old age. These women have all the skills and talents that any human can use to be successful in the modern world but instead, they decide to find a man who has “made it” financially and leech off him until divorce (typically) or death (rarely) do them apart. These are the girls who imitate the behaviour written about in fictional blogs like diaryofazulugirl.tumblr.com/ and think its the best way to get ahead in life.

My dear sisters, let me tell you one thing that is true. Work hard for your own.

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Teakisi (formerly ElleAfrique) is an English and French blogzine dedicated to challenging and changing the perceptions of African girls and women in the world today.

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  1. Well I would not agree with you that more women are enrolled in university than men … More women indeed but not more than men. If the high school enrolment rate of African girls is so low how can it possibly be higher at tertiary level? You

    I personally do not agree with the name-shaming culture, one woman does not have the power to hold back a million unless the one million agree to do so. One good thing about emancipation is that women now have the choice to either earn their own keep or depend on their husbands/partners. If a woman who has been presented with the opportunity to study and/or earn chooses not to, who are we to judge her choice. I know several women with enough degrees to raise the bar who chose to be housewives who depend on their husbands. But do they do nothing at home? I bet you 100 % that these women do more than sit there looking pretty – a household needs a manager, an accountant, a doctor, a housekeeper, a fashion designer, a psychic the jobs are endless. If a man is making so much money and is willing to waste it on a woman, why the hell not? These women actually are professionals because it is not every Tomasina, Dicksie and Harriet that can snap up a millionaire — they research, they network, they invest in their appearance, they educate themselves about this lifestyle they wish to have. Ahhh at the end of the day, do we work for personall satisfaction alone, about 90% of the world just works to pay the bills – if to you a job is finding a rich man and sticking to him like burr works for you then goooo girl! The point is this woman had the choice – nobody forced her to do it. Womanhood is multifaceted – no man is out there cursing the guys who leech on to the sugar mommas, if anything they wish to gain the skills so they can find their own sugar momma to finance their lavish lifestyles. Shooot show me where the millionaires hang out, let me take out a loan, fix me up a Peruvian/Mongolian weave and start frequenting these spots, looool.

    All I am saying is that don’t look at another woman’s lifestyle and assume your own is superior or that she is holding womanhood back because of her actions. I certainly continue to see women rising up despite the few knock-backs.

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